One
thing I’ve learned in this life is that being quiet is often seen as a sign of
weakness. Or an invitation to espouse on
the direction one’s life should take or the decisions that one makes.
Over
the last couple of years, I realize that this behavior has led some of my “friends”
to the belief that I obviously have no clue what I’m doing or need some
direction. And very often when they
would decide to do this, I just shut down.
This is mainly a result of enjoying peace after being raised with
parents who viewed arguing as recreational activity within a marriage. Nine times out of ten, unless it resulted in
me being harmed or losing money, I kept quiet.
This had me regarded as passive aggressive and a pushover. So the fuck what.
However,
as I am nearing thirty, I am realizing that I should enjoy that passive
aggressiveness with peace of mind. If
that means taking vacations by myself to avoid allowing people to think they’re
in control or need to advise me on everything from what I eat to what’s going
on with my car, so be it. If I’m on a
vacation, I don’t want to hear about that.
I especially don’t want to hear about such things from people who are
unhappy with their own circumstances.
I
came into this world by myself. I grew
up by myself. Trust, I have figured out
how to do a hell of a lot by myself while maintaining my own peace of
mind. I am who I am. I do what I do. If
someone don’t like it. To them, I say fuck you.